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What is YKINMK?

Many of us have heard the saying “to each their own.” Just because someone likes a particular thing does not mean there is something wrong with them, they just like different things. As long as the things they like are consensual with all individuals involved and does not violate any laws,rules, etc of course.

The kink community has at its core a belief that we are all into different kinks but that doesn't make us wrong, just different. We all like what we like, there is no reason to judge someone else who likes something different. YKINMK stands for Your Kink Is Not My Kink, meaning your kink is not something i am into.

Instead of saying things like “ewww” or “gross”, one can simply say or type YKINMK. Saying those things can offend people and create unnecessary tension. There is no reason to shame someone for liking what they like simply because you don't like it.

According to my research the acronym originated in the 1990s. There are multiple meanings and variations of the letters. There is YKIOK, meaning Your Kink Is OK. I found two suffixes for the acronym YKINMK. The first is YKINMK-BYKIOK, meaning Your Kink Is Not My Kink But Your Kink Is OK. The second suffix is YKINMK-ATO, meaning Your Kink Is Not My Kink And That's OK.

No matter what meanings or variations are used, it all carries the same message. You like what you like, I like what I like. We don't have to be the same, we don't have to like what others like. We don't need to shame, humiliate, or degrade someone just because they like something different. What we should be doing is to respect them as a person and accept the fact that they are different.

I have met so many people in a BDSM munch group who are into a wide variety of kinks and fetishes. Every single member of the group respects one another. Not everyone is into the same things but we all come together because of the BDSM world. We discuss our likes and often times help educate each other on them.

Welcome people who like different things into your life. Diversity is said to be the spice of life. Don't judge someone, don't shame them. Open the door to learning about other kinks or at least understanding the people into them. In the end, we are all born naked the rest is just kink!

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