Aftercare After a BDSM Scene Or Kink Play

Aftercare in BDSM or Kink is very important. Not everyone practices aftercare, but most of us really do need it after a scene. A good BDSM or Kink session can drudge up a lot of endorphins, feelings and emotions and its important to be grounded after such sessions. If you don't do aftercare after a scene, you can feel used, depressed, and sometimes feel a drop that brings you really down. Aftercare with yourself and your partner can help you enjoy the session more by being more grounded after its well over.


What is Aftercare



Two black woman holding each other. Showing they care, loving.

Aftercare is very different for everyone. So its very important to overthink the subject too much. Some forms of aftercare can be simple things such as talking with your dom or sub after the session why either eating your favorite foods, or watching a movie. We did some research and here are some ways others say they do aftercare after a BDSM or Kink session.


Taking care of each others physical needs. Make sure bruises, cuts, and other physical traits are taking care of. Bandages, rubbing a soothing ointment on areas that impact play may have been performed. This is also a good time to replenish fluids, and nourishment. Have a snack, and drink some water, tea or sports drink to replenish electrolytes.


Now comfort and physical contact and this will depend on the relationship you have with your partner. Some couples will make love after a BDSM or Kink session, or simply cuddle and hold each other. Again this all depends on the relationship you have with your partner. There is not right or wrong way to perform aftercare since its really based on each individuals needs. You also might want to create a bathing routine.


I know I am kind of throwing a few different ideas on aftercare, but it really is something that can be a lot of various things to help bring you back from a sudden drop in emotions from a scene. We have attached a couple of You Tube videos from BDSM educators that we follow and have been learning from over the years. These are great information sources on the subject and we really got value from them and hop you do too.


Afterkink Care from the guys at Watts The Safeword




Another BDSM educator is Evie Lupine. We have been watching Evie over the last few years, and have been learning quite a bit on the subject of BDSM. Evie talks alot about aftercare in quite a few of her videos.



We will be doing more posts on aftercare in the future, and would like to hear from you on how you perform aftercare. Email us at dddungeon1@gmail.com or message us on Twitter.




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