BDSM 101 Restraints Tied Up
When we think of restraint intercourse we get kind of excited, but its not always about intercourse when you think of restraints when it comes to BDSM. Restraints is a way for a person to feel in control, and the other person to give up that control. Restraints can be fun but it also can be dangerous if not done properly. So the first thing we want to talk about is safety.
Don’t make things too tight
Don’t leave a restrained person unattended for any reason
Don’t go near the throat
Don’t use handcuffs that don’t have a double lock
Don’t place anything over the mouth or nose while restrained
Do have medical scissors ready for emergency cutting
Do have two or three extra keys available (if you lose one)
Do keep the nose free if you use a gag
Do avoid and be careful of pressure points and joints
Do be aware of how long they are tied up
Do get the sub to confirm their safety word if play gets intense
Now that you have the dos and the don'ts lets get into the fun things. Always and we do mean always make sure that you have consent before beginning your play.
1. Blindfolds are a great way to start so that your sub is giving up control. If they cant see what your about to do it leaves the excitement and the anticipation for whats going to come next. PLUS we all know how other sensations increase when one is taken away
2.Arm and Hand restraints can be used. Have them restrained why performing a task for you and even think of a light punishment afterwards
3. Wearing a ball gag or dental equipment while trying to recite poetry – You might laugh or cringe at that one, but I KNOW you’ve played “chubby bunny” when you were a kid … or adult. You know, when you shove a ton of marshmallows in your mouth and try to say “chubby bunny.” Yep. Oral restraints.
4. Another fun thing to try is taping up your partner’s calves, thighs, and upper arms (notice that we are NOT tying the ankles, knees, and elbows) and make them “worm” across the floor to get something and bring it back to you. Laugh at that one too, but DAMN, it’s a great work out!
5. Walking around in public with a chastity belt (male or female) under your clothes can be very fun. No one, save your partner, is paying attention to you. However, you totally feel like all eyes are on you. For some people, a dirty little secret can be very erotic.
Make sure you are using quality products as well. A good quality rope to make sure that your sub is not injured during this play is very important. Its also important to use proper technique to get the best out of it.
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